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The psyche is as much part of us as is the colour of our eyes or our taste in music \u2013 why not talk about it more often? If you do find yourself in a situation that negatively effects your psyche, you already deserve recognition for realizing it \u2013 and especially for wanting to change it. If it is the psyche of someone else that you are worried about, talking to her or him and listening can already help \u2013 with respect, understanding, and patience. When we start talking about how we feel we have already tackled the first and maybe biggest hurdle on our way to getting better. Unfortunately, it is still not as normalized as it should be to talk about our mental health and problems. So, let\u00b4s change this!<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t

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The psyche is a sensitive topic. This is not due to any givens about the psyche being something to be ashamed of, or to not talk about in the public \u2013 on the contrary! \u2013 but we simply cannot know how the other person will react or feel about such a conversation. That\u2019s why you should try talk in an environment in which both of you feel comfortable. You should both also bring a lot of time to this sort of conversation. This way you can thoroughly talk about everything that\u2019s on your mind, as well as take the time you need to ask questions and think. After, you will both have the possibility to get some rest.<\/p>

It is helpful to actually plan to meet for this talk. You can make sure to have enough time and to be ready to focus on what is important. In order to not overwhelm the other person, you can already tell him or her beforehand that you want to talk to them about something important. This might be difficult in that moment, but it helps you to ensure that the conversation is taking place in the right environment and under the right circumstances. For example, going to the movies together is not necessarily as good for a trusting conversation as meeting for a walk in the park.<\/p>

If you\u2019re worried about your own psychological wellbeing and you feel like you can\u2019t talk to anyone, then you can also always call a service centre that specializes on this topic. However, many of us feel more comfortable talking to someone they know and trust at first. Friends and family members will definitely want to help you. You don\u2019t have to be afraid of hurting or disappointing them as you tell them about your problems.<\/p>

Wenn du dir Sorgen um eine nahestehende Person machst und versuchst, mit ihr zu reden, kann es auch passieren, dass sie das nicht m\u00f6chte oder eine Verabredung immer wieder absagt. Das darf dich nicht kr\u00e4nken, denn es hat bestimmt nichts mit dir zu tun. Viele haben Angst vor dem Gespr\u00e4ch oder wissen einfach nicht, wie sie das Gespr\u00e4ch starten sollen. Da hilft es, geduldig zu sein und der Person das Gef\u00fchl zu geben, dass sie dir vertrauen kann und du helfen m\u00f6chtest. Solltest du dir um eine Person Sorgen machen, an die du nicht mehr herankommst, kannst du auch eine Beratungsstelle kontaktieren und mit ihr herausfinden, wie ihr gemeinsam helfen k\u00f6nnt.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t

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Of one thing you can be sure: Talking about it does not make a psychological issue worse. But everyone who gets entrusted with these mental issues should also think about him or herself when offering help. It can burden you to hear of the psychological problems of your friends or family. It is important to only offer as much help as you can give. It is perfectly alright to feel overwhelmed during a conversation. It is already worth a lot that you try to help and listen. You might be the first person your friend or family member trusts enough to talk about something as intimate and sensitive as their psychological wellbeing \u2013 and for that alone you are already a great help. After these first talks, you can be a further support when it comes to taking the next steps. This way, you are both not alone and can search for professional help together. \u00a0<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t

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\u201cI just don\u2019t find the right words\u201d! \u2013 a very common reason to why we don\u2019t talk about our psychological wellbeing as often is that we don\u2019t really know how. But this is completely normal and understandable, seeing that the subject is sensitive, and it might just be odd at first to talk about it in daily life. If you don\u2019t know where to start a conversation about mental issues, it is best to be aware of a few things:<\/p>

• Try to free yourself of any stereotypes and prejudices. The person you are talking to is the same person you have always known. A psychological problem or disorder might change someone for a time, but it does not define the person.<\/p><\/li>

• You can only get help if you talk about what weighs on your mind and what worries you.<\/p><\/li>

• You can only give help if you sincerely listen and try to understand how the other person feels.<\/p><\/li>

• When you two reach a point that feels like a dead end, then you can look online for any professional contact points together. Not being alone while taking this step is a big help by itself.<\/p><\/li>

• We are oftentimes hesitant to talk about our metal issues. When you manage to make the first step, it can lead to a great relief in the other person. It shows your friend or family member that you care about them and that they can trust you. And the biggest obstacle is often already taken once the first conversation starts.<\/p><\/li>

• The most important thing is to treat each other with respect and trust. This way, you can talk about anything that\u2019s on your mind \u2013 even something that you don\u2019t understand about one another. To be there for each other is the biggest help that friends and family can offer.\u00a0<\/p><\/li><\/ul>

  Talking about mental wellbeing and problems might be very different to the normal talks we have. That\u2019s why there are a few sensitive things that seem perfectly fine and normal for regular small talk, which should nonetheless be avoided here.
  Especially when it comes to the psyche, it is important to understand that each and every one of us experiences things completely different to anyone else. Well intended, but misleading tips on what to do can make the other person feeling misunderstood. It is equally unhelpful to try to downplay the problems the other person is experiencing, or to directly compare it to your own experience. Of course, you can say that you understand the problems the other is experiencing. But you should always remember: Problems feel differently for everyone. It doesn\u2019t help the other person to turn the conversation and make it about you and how a seemingly similar problem played out for you. Of course, it is helpful to give tips based on your own experience \u2013 but that can wait for the next steps in which you two search for solutions.
  This first talk should simply aim to make the other person feel better and confident that you will take the next steps together. To listen and to respond adequately is the best thing you can do at first.<\/p>

  When talking about mental problems, we all want to feel that we are taken seriously. This also means that we should all work towards giving our counterparts exactly that feeling of taking him or her seriously. Even if you can\u2019t really follow everything that the other person is telling you, or if you don\u2019t really understand how and why exactly your friend or family member feels the way she or he does, you should still be understanding and try to listen. \n\n\nIt is equally important that you can say why you chose to speak to the person you are worried about. But you should try to not make it sound like you\u2019re accusing her or him of something \u2013 even if you are in fact a little disappointed, sad, or overwhelmed. \nHave you ever heard of so-called \u201cI-messages\u201d? They are a tool to express your own feelings without criticising someone else. Even if you\u2019re worried about someone that causes you to feel bad: You\u2019re surely not angry at them or expect a justification, but firstly just want you two to talk about your feelings. That\u2019s why it might help to think about how to express your feelings in these I-messages.<\/p>

  I realized that you don\u2019t want to meet as often as we used to, and that makes me sad.<\/p>

  It weighs on me that you seem so down all the time, and I wish I could help you somehow.<\/p>

  I am overwhelmed because I don\u2019t know how to understand your fears anymore. I\u2019d like to talk about it, to better understand what burdens you and why.<\/p><\/blockquote>

  I-messages don\u2019t mean to evade the word \u201cyou\u201d, but rather that you explain to your counterpart what feelings their behaviour triggers in you, and that you are in this situation together. Classic \u201cYou-messages\u201d can be understood as criticism and may lead to you two drifting apart even further.<\/p>

  You stopped coming to any of our meetings, and you constantly cancel on us spontaneously. This really sucks!<\/p>

  You\u2019re sad all the time. What\u2019s the deal with it?<\/p>

  I feel neglected by you. (Same message as \u201cYou neglect me\u201d.)<\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t

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  It surely felt good to talk. But what to do next?
  It\u2019s completely normal to not solve every problem with a simple conversation. It may also be that you or the other person feels like it\u2019s getting too much during your conversation \u2013 and that\u2019s okay, too. You are talking about some difficult and emotional stuff, and you might be nervous or even start to cry. This can all be quite a lot to handle, which is why it is perfectly fine to take your time. You can plan to meet another time or think about getting professional help or calling somewhere more professional.
  If you, as the helping person, feel overwhelmed with the situation, then you too can turn to these service centres. Don\u2019t forget: You don\u2019t have to find the perfect solution \u2013 that\u2019s what professional support is for. And you shouldn\u2019t see yourself as any kind of saviour either. You\u2019re just there for a friend or a family member, and that alone is brilliant!
  If you yourself are the one with the mental problem, then it is important to convey what\u2019s on your mind: if you feel like you are able to take care of yourself for a little while, and that you can comfortably say goodbye for now and meet at a different time again, then say so. If you don\u2019t feel able to make this promise, or if you think about hurting yourself or others in any way, then say so too, and definitely search for emergency help<\/u><\/a> <\/span>.<\/p>

  Something that is important too, is that you trust each other and don\u2019t tell anyone else about what you have talked about \u2013 unless you both feel comfortable with this. If the things you talked about weighs on you, then it is best to get professional help and maybe call one of the mentioned service centers<\/u><\/a><\/span>.<\/p>

  Let us now start by conveying you the good feeling you get from a good conversation:<\/p>

  Thanks for listening and reading so carefully!
  We know that this info can be quite a lot. But maybe it helped you a little bit to stop being afraid of talking about mental health.<\/p><\/blockquote>

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    Home Sprich dr\u00fcber Es ist toll, dass du dich entschlossen hast, mit jemandem \u00fcber psychische Probleme, Schwierigkeiten oder Auff\u00e4lligkeiten zu sprechen \u2013 weil du dir entweder Sorgen um jemanden machst oder selbst Hilfe brauchst. Nur, wenn du dar\u00fcber sprichst, kann der Prozess beginnen, durch den die Probleme angegangen werden, eine psychische Krankheit behandelt wird oder … <\/p>\n

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